Expectation
creates an atmosphere leading to "no-win" situations. For
example, say if you are always on time but your friend is frequently late.
They try, but they are just late everywhere they go. By your nagging or
getting upset with them do you think they will suddenly start becoming a
punctual person?
What
is it we expect? Are our expectations realistic? At times we can enjoy our life more by lowering the bar of
expectations. Often, I am my own best critic when it comes to demands on what I
can or am supposed to do. Perhaps this drives me to do more and be
more. Other times it creates stress that detracts from achieving my
goals.
In Maurice Attie's article on
Reconciliation,
Maurice states that before a holistic lawyer will accept a case they require you to sign a
statement releasing all expectations of the outcome of your case. This
requires trust in your decision -- and comfort level with your attorney.
Holistic lawyers require this statement because when we release our problem to heal within then we are
comfortable with the way God, nature, and spirit will work in the
situation.
As
the expression from the Lord's Prayer in The Bible goes, "not my will, but thy will be done" applies here
quite nicely, no matter what faith we come from.
The biggest challenge with
expectation is that an expectation is OUR WILL rather than an implicit
TRUST in God, Spirit, or the Law of ATTRACTION to provide WHAT IS BEST
FOR US. Perhaps we don't get that raise at work because we've got OTHER
fish to fry - another job, another career, or even our own venture might
be more important, and if we got the raise we'd stay where we are. So,
the frustration caused by not getting the promotion or the raise creates
a desire within us to do something different: and that something is what
is actually for our GREATEST GOOD.
And that ought to be what
we are seeking: our HIGHEST, GREATEST GOOD. Not our selfish, most
immediately gratifying good.
By
releasing expectation (surrender) we also enable creativity to flourish. If there are
no rules or expected outcomes in a situation, then the situation is free to flow
as it will. It is as if we pull away the banks from the river and let the
water choose how it would like to flow.
An
understanding of the situation and faith in our angel guides can help with
trusting the expectation to forces not entirely in our control. This trust
does enable us to be more free and experience more abundance and live a simpler,
yet more elegant life.
